Childfree by choice? comments as of Aug.13th

Anonymous said...

If you take the emotion out of it, it certainly seems a no-brainer.
The duration of the responsibility, and the sheer number of things that can be sources of problems should, at the least, provide food for thought.
And even if one is prepared to take it on, the question "What for?" looms large. For emotional kicks?
Karthic.


August 9, 2007 7:19 AM
MPK said...

Men and women are like other living creatures, they bring children into the world with little or no thought about the matter and then they suffer and toil as best as they can to rear them.

Men and women think that it is necessary to have children. It is not. It is their animal nature and social custom, rather than reason, which makes them believe that this is a necessity.

I belive that the first half of our lives is ruined by our parents, and the second half by our children and hence its best to Child Free

August 9, 2007 12:32 PM
sandy said...

oooh, MPK, I do not know who you are, but some pretty strong sentiment there!! Do you think children actually RUIN our lives? They often have an uncanny knack for making a nuisance of themselves, but why would you feel so strongly about it? Do post more.


August 9, 2007 1:12 PM
Anonymous said...

I think one of the first lessons we were ever taught is to follow the previous generation. Be it anything - from language to thinking patterns. To a great extent that is necessary for our social existence. If you think about it, creating a new generation is considered more of a social responsibility than an individual’s choice. At a macro level by creating a child one actually contributes to the larger species by preventing it from being extinct.

But looking at it from an individual’s point – I think most of us live by setting some meaningless milestones for ourselves. I would call it life patterns – many of which are just blindly inherited from our previous generations. We take it for granted and never think if it is actually required for the individual self. Again moment that life pattern is violated the society rates you as a failure. Hence we follow these life patterns to get acceptance in the larger society. This is true even in the case of marriage.

I remember this lady telling me that her life is empty without kids. She struggles to balance time between her job and daily chores. But the main motive for all what she does, always revolves around her kids. She never does what she actually wishes to do, for the fear of not giving enough time for her boys. And now it has reached a state where she does not have any other hobbies or interests in her life. When we were talking about this, one question was formulating in my mind. So finally what would happen to her when the kids go their way? I have seen that happening to my own my mother. She has spent all her life and energy around me. Now my circumstances force me to be away from her. The result – she feels lonely and gets into these emotional trips! But one thing is also true. If she had decided to live her life without a kid, I would not have existed to write this today ;-)

The thought of I having a kid is not exciting enough at least with my current mindset. May be if all what I said is true I bet my own opinion will change in future for sure. And who knows I may end up having more than one also 
I would rather be diplomatic - I would decide it in a later stage in my life when I would be more mature and stable with my ability to decide.

By the way why should I be even discussing this – I am still to figure out if marriage is needed. Cant imagine thinking of a child even before being married :D! The society will butcher me off

August 10, 2007 5:07 AM
Anonymous said...

children are the best reminder that we're still apes
August 10, 2007 5:45 AM

anush said...

I have a few friends who are well established in whatever things that they have been doing. They have all come back to one common thing - a home which reminds them only of their material laurels.

To all of them i spin out my grandma's life story. She lived to be 90. She had half a dozen children and a dozen grand children. I have seen nobody live a full life like her.At 90 she was pleased and contended with herself taking things in her stride and died a natural death reveling in the grandeur that she had brought to her life.

Someone had mentioned before in this blog that we follow blindly what our previous generations had to offer. If they taught us how to live, if they taught us happiness, and you thank them for what you are today. Then there would be no doubt that they have shown you an easiest way to fill your life.
August 12, 2007 9:51 PM